Monogamy in Relationships...Should it be a choice?

You know...I've never heard such mess in my entire life. I'm listening to a popular radio station here in Detroit that covers other cities/states also, and the radio host was discussing "Monogamy in Relationships." His point or idea was that "monogamy should be a choice, not an expectation." I could just end this here blog by saying that this is just utterly ridiculous and leave it at that. But let's be logical about it...

2 points:

POINT 1...What is Relationship?
It has become apparent to me that someone who could imply that monogamy in a relationship should be a choice and not an expectation, doesn't have a clear understanding of what entering into a relationship is. Just by doing basic research (a dictionary alone), you will see that fidelity is an important aspect in a relationship, in fact, the foundation. Relationship is something that connects and binds the two. It is an attachment which, when researched, goes into fidelity and affectionate regard. When you enter into a relationship with someone you have great regard for them, meaning all things are taken into consideration because what you do affects them as well. And it causes you to have a protective interest in them, meaning you will do what it takes and all that you can to ensure their interests are protected. Fidelity itself is clearly being faithful and loyal. It is having a strict and continuing faithfulness to an OBLIGATION, trust, or duty. And loyalty is a faithfulness that is steadfast in the face of any temptation to renounce, desert, or betray your partner.
So, already you lost me. If two people deem it necessary to have an "open" relationship, neither of the two are ready for a relationship, because a relationship requires fidelity in order for it to be a relationship. So, if people are that immature to live that kind of way, at least have respect enough to maintain the sanctity of the word "relationship." Call it something different, because that's not what a relationship does. If "Webster" can't convince you that this is ludicrous...perhaps this sad truth will...

POINT 2: Being Accountable for Infidelity
It saddens me that the same radio hosts that one day will plant these "new age" ideas in the minds of the people, will another day protests their disgust and dismay about the growing rate of AIDS amongst the African American population. Well, duh! You can't promote infidelity and then turn around and say "shame, shame, shame" on the AA community and the HIV/AIDS epidemic!!! The sad truth is that the HIV/AIDS epidemic is growing significantly amongst the African American population (adolescent and adult included)...and things like this add to the growing rate. And by these big grown folk on the radio promoting this kind of promiscuity, we are not doing a good job teaching the generation after us how to live a safe, clean life of integrity. We're now being taught that being with one person is lame and uncool, when it actually is safer and shows you have more respect for yourself and the person you are with!!! If you don't have the integrity enough to honor the meaning and respect of being in a relationship with someone, at least take into consideration that you put your mate, and your future children at risk of your infidelity. Monogamy as a "choice" puts yourself at risk! Just because you may be heterosexual doesn't mean your mate will "choose" to participate in sexual relationships with someone of the same sex. But giving them that "choice" doesn't place many barriers on their "choice."

Bottom line is monogamy as a "choice" in a relationship is no relationship at all! Find something else to call it and let those who really respect and honor the meaning a relationship enjoy it without it being dishonored by the lusts of peoples' minds. If you're not ready to be faithful, you're not ready for a relationship. Simply put, simply understood. I think people are just trying to find a name to label their unreadiness to commit. How about we label your forehead with a sticker that says, "NOT READY TO COMMIT!" Yeah, I think that works...

L8r:
~faithful