I bloggeed a few days ago about the war between black men and women. I've been getting a lot of interesting feedback. My simple intention is just for us to better understand each other better, even outside of romantic relationships, as one of my blogger counterparts commented. We both have concerns and I'm sure there are legitimate reasons for them all (at least I hope there are). Guys, in case you ever wondered why black women are a bit tough, or "bitter" as some of you like to call us...here's a small list of reasons why they might be. And for the record, all black women are not bitter. I certainly don't consider myself to be. But I am sure that most of us at one point or another have definitely had the opportunity to be!)
5: They are tired of being misunderstood.
4: There aren't enough black men available to marry. If they're not in jail, a large portion of them are not ready for committment, while the other large portion are gay, or can't financially support a family.
3: They have to work just as hard as men to provide for the family while still expected to fulfill all the traditional duties of a wife.
2: They have to have all the babies, lose their shape (if not genetically favored) while the men complain, become verbally/mentally abusive, and eventually become unfaithful.
1. Black men expect black women to look like Beyonce everyday, not realizing it costs thousands of dollars to create that look; money which usually the black men don't have to fund that daily project!
L8r:
~faithful
6 comments:
I totally agree.
I luv black men. Nothing will ever be able to change that. They complete me.
But as a race we definitely need to sort out our reasons for being bitter and/or misunderstanding of each other if we expect to succeed together.
Excellent and sincere comment! Thanks.
Black men hold so much scrutiny in our lives, for centuries we have lived in the dark shadow of what we lack and what we need to do, the strengths of my brothers has a defining mark on history some of the most historical events and moments that has effected black men and women today were inspired by unity and the back bones of our men and women who believe in sticking together. The simple fact and definite truth is that we need you, my black women we need the best in you, why because men move mountains for the approval and praise of women. Black women you represent us and you are one of the few forms of greatness that no man or institutionalized systematic ideologies can take from us, every time we marry and create a family not only are we creating a legacy for ourselves and our families but we are restoring the bond of our heritage and we are showing the world that we are not losers or that we are without the ability to be adequate fathers, reliable husbands, and men with a purpose to ride the strong coat tails of our women! Every time you chose not to run to other cultures you show that you are with us and you believe in who we are and what we can accomplish with an undisputed truth. I urge you black women to search within yourselves and develop a desire for us as black men so our future generations can be poised and installed with the notion that them as black men and women when their time comes can depend, love, marry, and create everlasting cultural, spiritual, emotional, bonds and have a since of security that we don’t and you don’t in particular (black women) need other races to make you happy, safe, and secure. I Lee Oakley state that we need you, I need you black women and I, we need you to not hate us or turn away but to need us to and then we can overcome any and all obstacles the world may have. Once I wrote that (“unification is the solution to the pollution of trial and tribulation in our imperfect situation called life”) Black women you are the solution to purifying the tarnished image the world and ourselves has bestowed upon us, every time we lose one of you to another we lose the best chance to be what we are suppose to be BLACK MEN unmatched, undeniable, and unrestricted with love, nobility, and a strong family background. Just remember together they can’t beat or hurt us both, we need you and no matter what we love you.
WOOOOOWZER!!! MOUTH WIDE OPEN! THAT WAS GREAT!
I feel everything except for number 4.
I've heard these stats from various sources but something just doesn't 'feel' right about them. Plus, they're MOSTLY coming from the media. My God supplies ALL our needs. I REFUSE to believe that out of ALL of the black men put here in America, THAT many of us are gay? I seriously doubt that. Maybe the incarceration level of black men is accurate. Certainly a lot of us that can't support a family yet but most GREAT story's of Love come from our Grandparents, and Great-grand parents who spoke of the the Love that preservers; but that kind of love is so rare with these modern times and modern ways and modern definitions of love. Out of all the Black women who don't mind dating outside their race, it should be ample enough for those who exclusively want to date Black men.
Thanks for the comment Conroy. Although it's hard for you to believe and accept the number of gay African-American men in America, doesn't allow us to escape from the truth. From your end it's easier to believe that it's absurd because u'r a guy, but from our view it's a sad reality. And I'm not speaking just in terms of statistics presented by the media. I'm speaking in terms of reality. It's a real epidemic and what's even more sad are the majority of them who are not open about it. I have several gay male friends who themselves have many gay male friends. It's amazing some of the things I have come to know by being friends with them. I love them just as much as my straight friends...but reality is, it does present a huge problem for our race, not only in terms of unmarried black women, but also in terms of the rising aids epidemic in our black community. And that is a fact!
With these lists certainly being the case, more times than not, tell me:
So where does the black man and woman go from here/there?
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