When I reunite with someone I haven't seen or spoken to in a while, one of the first things they ask me (besides "You still at Shalom?!?" inside joke) is "So are you married yet?" Pretty typical question for someone approaching their 30's I guess. But I must admit, it's beginning to irritate me. I'm not irritated because my answer is "no." I'm irritated because people make a big deal out of it. It makes me feel like being single is some kind of despicable handicap or something. ESPECIALLY if you look nice, have things going good for yourself, etc, etc. "All that and no boo? Something must be wrong with you! What's the catch?" There's no catch! I'm not psychotic. I'm not gay. I'm not stuck-up or too independent. I'm just single...simply put.
I thought I had heard it all, that is, until I heard someone went as far as to say that I was gay. Whaa! LOL I stand corrected...NOW I have officially heard it all! As I make this transition into the latter years of my twenties, I'm beginning to see that this is going to be an on-going thorn in my side. People would almost prefer you to be booed-up and miserable than single and happy with life by yourself, just so they'll know there's nothing wrong with you. My apologies, but I don't have that kind of time to waist anymore. Being booed-up has its benefits, but I personally enjoy being single right now.
I told this gentleman recently who asked me why I was still single. My reply was, "If I have to, I'll wait a thousand years for the right one." I'm still young, but I've been through enough to know that it's not worth being booed-up with the wrong person just to be able to say you're not single. You're waisting your time, your mates' time, and you're delaying the person's time who really is supposed to be with you! Options are nice and one may think they have it going on because they have SO many options. But at the end of the day, when you leave out the house, you can only wear ONE outfit. And if you have to keep changing your outfit it's because of your own insecurities. FIND one! Make it great! Make it count! Make it last!
L8r,
~faithful
7 comments:
oh i so needed that...
My favorite post by far.
=] tell it!
Um. Interesting.
That's ONe of the reasons I dread the Holidays. That question get's tossed around at mostly ALL the family get-togethers.
People use it as a conversation opener and I'm at the point of exhaustion answering/defending/explaining myself to folk.
On the other side of the equation I may be able to understand how a loved one would be concerned enough and wonder if I'm happy.
I value my life. Being single enables me to do so much more without having to split my time but don't get it tangled & twisted... The goal is a family and has always been that. I just hope that I don't become so much of an open/free spirit that it becomes a task to convert back to comprise, patience and time sharing. lol
You are still young and beautiful and still maturing. I wouldn't be in a rush to put up with someone you do not want, for the sake of not "feeling like you are alone."
At the end of the day - do You! That's what counts the most.
@ Conroy...LOL, yea that's one of the only negatives I see in waiting to get married later on in life. You start to get set in your ways. So, I understand what you mean. Hopefully that won't happen to me either. ;)
@ Don...thank you, thank you, thank you! I am trying my best not to fall into the "hype" rather than really falling into "love"...there is a difference!
Amen to that!
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